I want to say something novel, perhaps a bit naïve, too. Many negative factors are in play when it comes to the state of our interpersonal encounters. Social media, political intolerance, tribalism, and, yes, the absence of a religious penchant, all contribute to the potential for dislike, even hatred, of one another.
What should be intuitive is seemingly less and less practiced. In a word, we need to be kind. Perhaps I am waxing nostalgic, but a time existed when, regardless of our strong passions and convictions, we were able to listen to one another with respect and treat each with due deference and politeness. We were, collectively, kin, the root word for kind. To be sure, humanity’s struggle to live peaceably has always been tested, but in my lifetime, I have never quite witnessed what I perceive today.
The de facto result is a rush to mob rule, intimidation intended to silence the critic, and thought police deconstructing the cherished right to speak one’s mind without fear, reprisal, or ruin. Perhaps you still do not believe this to be true. Look around. It is much more than being cancelled, you and I can be cast out altogether beyond the margins.
What arrow do we then have in our quiver to pierce the monster of meanness? It must be kindness combined with resolve.
In a biblical letter by a man named, Paul, we are told that those who accept, and practice, Godly qualities will, in fact, have kindness as a spiritual character trait, a value. Even when it is counterintuitive to offer and afford someone else grace or unmerited favor, we do well to reach for such altruism, accordingly.
Countless biblical stories reinforce this truism from The Good Samaritan’s benevolence to Jesus’ own words to an adulterous woman, “…neither do I condemn you. Now go and sin no more.” And yet, here we are worsening in our charity and forgiveness.
Moreover, it is not only those outside the religious circles who offend. Those inside the church walls often fail to practice what they preach. It is a human condition that is exacerbated by narcissism and something that we must guard our heart against.
I could say, “Here is some homework,” but really this is life work. Consider this week, each day, how you will show someone noticeable kindness. Whether it is in simple manners, taking captive a thought that is better left unsaid, or generously giving or your time, talent, or treasures, without an implied quid pro quo, do so anyway. It will take effort, but more than that, it will take observation.
Years ago, I worked for a delivery company. We were taught as drivers to get the big picture, aim high in steering, keep our eyes moving, leave ourselves an out, and make certain they see you. It was good advice for driving and better advice for us today. Always be kind.
Kent Simmons is the pastor of Canyon Community Church. He can be reached at kent@canyon-church.com.